When you increase your willpower, it enables you to create different outcomes. It enables you to create your life.
I will never be controlled through my own lack of will ever again.
These days I don’t need to use willpower with things like drugs, gambling, or drinking booze because these things – which were heavy addictions for over 20 years – are no longer even a temptation – they are disgusting to me.
The reason why some of us have serious problems with willpower, is likely different for everyone.
If you have a problem with willpower, like I did, it’s interesting to look back and seeing where it stems from.
For me, I had no willpower because I was born into a highly controlling religious sect. When I got out at 15, I and swung like a pendulum into NO control. None.
Using willpower is hardest at the start.
So whether you do it in one giant leap, or – like me – in tiny baby steps – sometimes forwards sometimes back – learning to increase your willpower always comes if you have determination.
Keep getting back on the horse. Keep observing, keep realigning. Focus on WHY you want to do what you’re trying to do – turn it into fuel, and TRY AGAIN.
Learning to increase willpower is a process, and processes take time. Use bucket loads of patience and compassion for yourself. Cultivate strong boundaries and put up walls between you and EVERYTHING that distracts you off your path. Boundaries are your force field.
Put one foot in front of the other. One step at a time. It’s all about direction. Not the speed.